Comments on: Are you calling in tonight? http://womensmemoirs.com/memoir-writing/are-you-calling-in-tonight/ Memoir, Autobiography, Personal Stories, Family History, Life Story, Memoir Writing Workshops, Journaling, Writing, Memoir Writing Prompts, Writing & Healing Thu, 09 Feb 2012 14:11:46 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.3 hourly 1 By: Linda Joy Myers http://womensmemoirs.com/memoir-writing/are-you-calling-in-tonight/comment-page-1/#comment-307 Linda Joy Myers Fri, 03 Apr 2009 19:42:43 +0000 http://womensmemoirs.com/?p=562#comment-307 Hi Matilda and Kendra, These are great questions and issues for memoirists--universal questions that writers of "true" stories must wrestle with. I'm curious about the question of writing so healing abuse is meaningful--as a therapist it seems to always be meaningful to address healing, and wonder if others find it so, or is it just because of my professional bias! Perhaps there are times when one should not address healing? I know you all will have a wonderful discussion. Linda Joy Some writing to heal issues will be discussed at the NAMW Writing as Healing Teleconference on April 23. Hope you can join us that day. Hi Matilda and Kendra, These are great questions and issues for memoirists–universal questions that writers of “true” stories must wrestle with. I’m curious about the question of writing so healing abuse is meaningful–as a therapist it seems to always be meaningful to address healing, and wonder if others find it so, or is it just because of my professional bias! Perhaps there are times when one should not address healing? I know you all will have a wonderful discussion.
Linda Joy
Some writing to heal issues will be discussed at the NAMW Writing as Healing Teleconference on April 23. Hope you can join us that day.

]]> By: Sandra Pope http://womensmemoirs.com/memoir-writing/are-you-calling-in-tonight/comment-page-1/#comment-306 Sandra Pope Fri, 03 Apr 2009 19:17:46 +0000 http://womensmemoirs.com/?p=562#comment-306 Hello, Kendra! I have written my spiritual memoir about healing from abuse -- GROWING UP WITHOUT THE GODDESS: A Journey through Sexual Abuse to the Sacred Embrace of Mary Magdalene. And linear memory does sometimes fail, but the heart, the inner guide always helps us find our truth that will allow healing. The details don't matter so much in the long run. The effects of the abuse, whether personal or cultural, attest to the presence of an abuser. Like I write in my book: "The wobble in a star's orbit and the sudden disappearance of light" let astronomers know a black hole was nearby, long before they had a name for it or could locate it. What matters is that the abused one knows she was abused, not that others believe it or that the evidence is such that it would stand up in a court of law. For me, decades after the abuse and its negative consequences on my life, my path was about healing, not about getting the perpetrator to admit to the abuse. Most perps deny, deny, deny. But their denial does not alter the truth nor prevent healing. My Best to You, Sandra Pope http://www.growingupwithoutthegoddess.com Hello, Kendra! I have written my spiritual memoir about healing from abuse — GROWING UP WITHOUT THE GODDESS: A Journey through Sexual Abuse to the Sacred Embrace of Mary Magdalene.

And linear memory does sometimes fail, but the heart, the inner guide always helps us find our truth that will allow healing. The details don’t matter so much in the long run. The effects of the abuse, whether personal or cultural, attest to the presence of an abuser. Like I write in my book: “The wobble in a star’s orbit and the sudden disappearance of light” let astronomers know a black hole was nearby, long before they had a name for it or could locate it.

What matters is that the abused one knows she was abused, not that others believe it or that the evidence is such that it would stand up in a court of law. For me, decades after the abuse and its negative consequences on my life, my path was about healing, not about getting the perpetrator to admit to the abuse.

Most perps deny, deny, deny.

But their denial does not alter the truth nor prevent healing.

My Best to You,
Sandra Pope
http://www.growingupwithoutthegoddess.com

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